One more reason to love Murray Hill and all the love and joy he brings to us in NYC — this #itgetsbetter video from his Miss LEZ Pageant (awesome photos here by Syd London!) If you want more of Mr. Polyester’s love, join me and the spousal unit at “A Murray Little Christmas”...

DAMN! Kate Ross is not only house designer behind Distinguished Cravat – an apparel company reinventing the bowtie — she also embodies new possibility. Her genderbending style is radiant.   Like your old pal dapperQ, she understands that fashion is not a means to an end. Check her out...

Like your old pal, dapperQ, Jac Mestel has a passion for transgressing men’s fashion. According to Jac, a 23-year-old from Boston, here’s why: I’m passionate because I’ve been there, scrounging around the boy’s department trying on things that look awesome, but don’t often fit right....

If you have made your way to dapperQ you are, by definition, an explorer.  I’ll bet you were born coloring outside the lines.  You understand at some very essential level that it is both a responsibility and a privilege to express your unique sense of self.  If you don’t do it, who will? Fashion...

You heard me right. I’m not talking about other folk’s breasts. I’m talking about yours and mine. I want to open a conversation about what we are thinking, feeling and doing about our breasts because it’s this body which you and I are dressing. Because while there are myriad...

It was my good friend Danna James who really starting educating me about trans issues, and his feedback and support has been pivotal to dapperQ. When we talked earlier this week about dapperQ’s asking for advice on wedding attire, Danna agreed to share the experience he has gleaned over a couple...

Please forgive me for the days that have lapsed since my last post. My 30th high school reunion in Tejas this weekend, attending my weekly Butch Burlesque classes, preparing my burlesque piece, and creating a short film on the process, have kept me full-on dapperQ, but have left me no time to write....

Jen Dzuira wrote an admiring post about dapperQ on TheGloss last week under the title, “NerdGlam: Butch Fashion (and Whatever Happened to Lesbians-Until-Graduation?)” Tune in to learn more about the phenomenon of “lesbians until graduation” apparently knows as “LUG’s.” ...

Here’s the first in a series of e-mails started last month: I have a 15 year old daughter, who is clearly stating that she is most comfortable in men’s styles. She has not worn a dress or skirt, etc., in years, but that seems common where we live in CA. She has not stated that she is lesbian,...

Sometimes being dapperQ is really fun. Those in the know think we are edgy, authentic, daring.  I could go on.  But sometimes it’s hard. Today is a day like that for me.  This morning someone dearest to me told me this site was “vulgar.”  She’s 80, so I don’t expect...