Last week, I indulged in some fashion blogging for dapperQ after a long, hard summer of all work and no play. In addition to my usual projects, I decided I would try to pull off a very last minute back-to-school college campus style post. Within hours after advertising casting calls through various LGBTQ...

I am butch. I guess. Butch by default? Butch because I am not femme. Definitely not femme. So. Not. Femme. Why is it easier for me to say what I am not? What’s wrong with butch? There are so many other labels out there: andro, boi, AG, stud… all degrees of the same side of the gender divide,...

I love the phrase that Butch Voices uses to describe the primary universe of folks it convenes as: “masculine of center.” Not that it didn’t make me twinge when I first saw the cover of Jack (a.k.a. Judith) Halberstam’s brilliant book: Female Masculinity. Hell, growing up in rural southwest...

I was a tomboy. (Quite a confession, I know. I’ll just wait for the shock waves to subside.) I was a rough-and-tumble, dirty-kneed, baseball-playing, plaid-shirt-wearing tomboy growing up. I haven’t changed much. My earliest playmates were boys and we dressed alike. It was the 70s so we were all...

Ho-ho-holy crap I’m glad that’s over! I am still dealing with what I like to call “the ghost of the Xmas present.” And as it becomes the ghost of Xmas past, I’d like to figure out how to keep this spectre from haunting me in future. For many reasons, it was not a great holiday this year....

Recently I taught my dad how to tie a bow tie. It was his birthday. Mine too, actually. His 70th, my 41st. I wore a bow tie to the party with a snazzy vest, and as a gift I gave him a bow tie and taught him how to tie it. Here’s why this was a big deal. I was aware that my mother would not like my...

I am finally coming out of the closet. Not that one. I’ve been out of that one since I was eighteen. I’m talking about my clothes closet. My wardrobe. Interesting word “wardrobe,” meaning both a piece of furniture that holds clothing and the outfits themselves. Well mine feels like a prison and...

Here’s an e-mail I recently received from a dapperQ that expresses feelings common to those of us who don’t feel comfortable in either the men’s department or the women’s department of our local department store: I hate going shopping in person so much that I never do it anymore....

One more reason to love Murray Hill and all the love and joy he brings to us in NYC — this #itgetsbetter video from his Miss LEZ Pageant (awesome photos here by Syd London!) If you want more of Mr. Polyester’s love, join me and the spousal unit at “A Murray Little Christmas”...

DAMN! Kate Ross is not only house designer behind Distinguished Cravat – an apparel company reinventing the bowtie — she also embodies new possibility. Her genderbending style is radiant.   Like your old pal dapperQ, she understands that fashion is not a means to an end. Check her out...